I felt led to listen to this talk today, "We Are Doing a Great Work and Cannot Come Down," by one of my favorite mentors, the apostle, President Dieter F. Uchtdorf. The essence of the message to me was,
"We cannot and we must
not lose focus on the things that matter most."
President Uchdorf begins by telling a very tragic story of people who lost focus on what was most important because of a very small and minor problem which caused a devastating effect.
"On
a dark December night 36 years ago, a Lockheed 1011 jumbo jet crashed into the
Florida Everglades, killing over 100 people. This terrible accident was one of
the deadliest crashes in the history of the United States.
A
curious thing about this accident is that all vital parts and systems of the
airplane were functioning perfectly—the plane could have easily landed safely
at its destination in Miami, only 20 miles (32km) away.
During
the final approach, however, the crew noticed that one green light had failed
to illuminate—a light that indicates whether or not the nose landing gear has
extended successfully. The pilots discontinued the approach, set the aircraft
into a circling holding pattern over the pitch-black Everglades, and turned
their attention toward investigating the problem.
They
became so preoccupied with their search that they failed to realize the plane
was gradually descending closer and closer toward the dark swamp below. By the
time someone noticed what was happening, it was too late to avoid the disaster.
After
the accident, investigators tried to determine the cause. The landing gear had
indeed lowered properly. The plane was in perfect mechanical condition.
Everything was working properly—all except one thing: a single burned-out
lightbulb. That tiny bulb—worth about 20 cents—started the chain of events that
ultimately led to the tragic death of over 100 people.
Of
course, the malfunctioning lightbulb didn’t cause the accident; it happened
because the crew placed its focus on something that seemed to matter at the
moment while losing sight of what mattered most.
The tendency to focus on the insignificant at the expense of the
profound happens not only to pilots but to everyone. We are all at risk."
In the past I would let a story like this only increase my fears and add terror into my idea of flying on an airplane. But now, I am learning that I don't need to do that. I don't need to worry that this could happen to me, for now I have trust in my Heavenly Father. I trust that He is all powerful. I trust that if I am trying to do what is right, though I will make many mistakes, if I keep trying, He will make sure I finish my mission, my purpose in mortality. And returning back to Him would not be the tragedy. Death is not the tragedy, the unlived life is the tragedy. The sad story would be one of a person who does not find their meaning, their eternal purpose in life, the person who does not take the moments to love, to learn, to live. I am learning to see a situation for what it is, as an opportunity to learn something. And I can learn much from this story.
I have often gotten caught up in the little things, focusing my attention on problems that will not matter in a week or a month or a year. I forget to focus on those things which matter for eternity. When things are difficult, when I am tired or in pain, when I have a challenge that seems to loom large on my horizon, at those times I sometimes forget the joy of my life and I am not as kind, or loving, or considerate to those people who are so important to me, especially my wonderful family.
I am learning that there is an important place for self-reflection, there is an important time to sort out our own problems, concerns, fears and negative conditioning, It is crucial to take time to replenish and refill, and to maintain a healthy balance between caring for ourselves and caring for others. And I am learning from experience that I need to step back when my personal gas tank is getting low because I cannot handle things well when I have no fuel left.
But recently, when I was delving into the problems of my past in my cognitive therapy, I shifted my focus to how hard it has been, to how much I have suffered. In a conversation with a friend, I even said, "I feel like I am living at the bare minimum. I have had to cut so many things that I love out of my life." I later learned that my friend was surprised, and rightfully so, because I have so many wonderful things going for me.
I was so focused on my pain, my problems, and what I was missing out on, I forgot the wonderful blessings that I have. I had taken the "focus on me" time to an extreme. Because I have focused only on looking outward and have neglected myself for many years, and I'm learning to really start caring for myself, I forgot that I need to keep a balance between looking outward and looking inward. And I was only focusing on the darkness and pain that was inward. When I am caught up in myself or my own problems and don't remember to look outwards, loving and serving others seems like a burden, just another thing on my "to-do" list. When we see something, like serving others, as a burden, I can guarantee it will feel like a burden. But when we see serving others as an opportunity to love and lift someone else, we will feel loved and lifted in return.
President Uchtdorf continues with a story from the Old Testament that I would like to become more familiar with,
"Nehemiah
of the Old Testament is a great example of staying focused and committed to an
important task. Nehemiah was an Israelite who lived in exile in Babylon and
served as cupbearer to the king. One day the king asked Nehemiah why he seemed
so sad. Nehemiah replied, “Why should not my countenance be sad, when the city,
the place of my fathers’ [graves], lieth waste, and the gates thereof are
consumed with fire?” 4
When
the king heard this, his heart was softened, and he gave Nehemiah the authority
to return to Jerusalem and rebuild the city. However, not everyone was happy
with this plan. In fact, several rulers who lived near Jerusalem grieved
exceedingly “that there was come a man to seek the welfare of the children of
Israel.” 5 These men “took great indignation, and mocked
the Jews.” 6
Fearless,
Nehemiah did not allow the opposition to distract him. Instead, he organized
his resources and manpower and moved forward rebuilding the city, “for the
people had a mind to work.” 7
But
as the walls of the city began to rise, opposition intensified. Nehemiah’s
enemies threatened, conspired, and ridiculed. Their threats were very real, and
they grew so intimidating that Nehemiah confessed, “They all made us afraid.” 8 In spite of the danger and the ever-present
threat of invasion, the work progressed. It was a time of stress, for every
builder “had his sword girded by his side, and so builded.” 9
As
the work continued, Nehemiah’s enemies became more desperate. Four times they
entreated him to leave the safety of the city and meet with them under the
pretense of resolving the conflict, but Nehemiah knew that their intent was to
do him harm. Each time they approached him, he responded with the same answer:
“I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down.” 10
What
a remarkable response! With that clear and unchanging purpose of heart and
mind, with that great resolve, the walls of Jerusalem rose until they were
rebuilt in an astonishing 52 days. 11
Nehemiah
refused to allow distractions to prevent him from doing what the Lord wanted
him to do."
Nehemiah must have felt afraid or weary or weak at times, but he did not let that get in the way of focusing on what mattered most. My friend and I spoke yesterday about how we often let those little things bother us and push us over the edge that really don't matter at all in the long run. We feel very deeply our weakness in this area. Although I have these excellent lessons that I am learning and that I believe, will I apply them perfectly in my life? No. I find that I can't. I have sometimes seen myself as a hypocrite if I don't do everything that I know to be true perfectly. But I keep trying, and I know now that I will not be a hypocrite if I just keep trying. For I know that "Our destiny is not determined by the number of times we stumble, but by the number of times we rise up, dust ourselves off and move forward." ("You Can Do It Now, Pres. Uchtdorf)
So, just like Nehemiah, I will keep building my wall, and I will rally others to build with me, and we will help each other. We will not let ourselves get distracted by the little lights that have burnt out in our lives so that we forget all the perfectly functional things in our lives. We can replace those light bulbs, yes, but we will stay focused on what matters most: our loved ones and friends, the people around us, our eternal meaning and purpose and the love that God has for us.
For we are doing a great work, and we cannot come down.
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